It's not always easy to be positive with a disability, especially in the beginning. It's hard to see your friends doing things that you can't. The stares are hard to ignore and there are people that simply don't want to understand your situation. Which doesn't make life any easier. But that doesn't mean that happiness is impossible. Every disability is different and we all have our own unique obstacles to conquer so here are a few things that I do to stay positive and happy
Blast your favorite music: Science has shown that music can aid in sleep, help get rid of stress and anxiety, there have even been studies that showed that music helps with depression and pain relief. I listen to music every morning to kickstart my day or to make a dreaded task more fun. So rock out, get loose and don't be afraid to shake it!
Go outside: Ever watched the movie "The Shining"?As Jack Nickleson would say "all work and no play makes Jack a dull boy". If you lock yourself up long enough you will become a "Dull Boy"! So go out on the porch, take a walk or go to a park. It doesn't matter. Just get some fresh air, take some deep breaths and clear your mind. You'll be surprised how much this will lift your spirits.
Hang out with a friend: Being around someone you love and who loves you will give you that distraction you need. It can be easy to get stuck in your own world when you have a disability so make it a priority to spend time with your friends. You don't even have to step (or roll) out of the house for this one.
Meditate: I've only recently discovered meditation and it's a lot easier than I thought it would be. Especially if you're doing guided meditation. There are guided meditations for all sorts of specific needs. It's good for releasing all that negative energy. I probably sound like a hippy, which I'm not ashamed of, but you never know what something is like unless you try.
Things to remember
Go with the flow: Having a disability is all about acceptance. James Patterson wrote in one of his books "the more you go with the flow, the more whole you'll be. The more you resist, the more pain you'll feel".
Count your blessings: I know it sounds cliche but doing this has really made a difference for me. Whether you write it down in a journal or say it in your prayer at night you'll feel a difference once your awareness shifts from focusing on your problems to your blessings.
Smile at the ones who stare: For some reason, people tend to analyze people with disabilities. Let them know that you're friendly and approachable. Or you could think of it as killing them with kindness. Some will smile back, some won't. But that's their problem, not yours. When I was younger and before I learned this trick, someone staring at me could ruin my day. But now, I have a thicker skin and don't give it a second thought.
Things could be worse: There's always someone out there wishing they had your problems. Not to say that your life is any easier than theirs or that they understand. I'm only saying that maybe your life isn't as bad as it could be. Every time I'm in the hospital I always think about the other kids who are having siezures or have a bleed in the brain. It really puts things into perspective.
There's good in the bad: The Yin Yang symbol comes to mind. The black represents the bad and the white is the good. They both are a part of one another. With out the bad how can good exist. The good might be harder to find sometimes but it's there in every situation. I'm so grateful for the beautiful life I have because I know what it's like to have almost lost it.
Look for the extraordinary in the ordinary: There are little miracles happening everyday. All around you. For me it's things like getting out of arelapse or a new doctor that is dedicated to helping me.
See your problems as potential teachers: Whether it's to teach you or someone else, our struggles are there for a reason. Take this post, for instance, how can I try to help you with your struggles without having lived through some of my own? Life is one big story and (like this blog) those problems can be used to uplift someone else someday.
You are not your problems: This is taught a lot in meditation. Knowing that your struggles are not a part of you but a manifestation of the outside world is a big load off your shoulders and makes it easier to release those emotions.
You are only human: We'd all love to have superpowers but we don't. It's ok to be upset or to get frustrated or to be sad. We can't do everything and it's unfair to expect perfection out of ourselves.
Trust fate: Want to know how to make God laugh? Tell him your plans. He'll get a kick out of that. What messes us up most in life is how we think things should be. Jeremiah 29:11 - I know the plans I have for you, says the Lord. Plans to prosper you and not to harm. Plans to give you hope and a future.
Just implementing a few of these things into your life is a big success. Learning to happy while living with a disability is a process. It doesn't happen overnight. If you like this please share, comment and/or subscribe. Please let me know how much you enjoyed this post or if there's anything I need to improve on. I can't do this without you!