Whether or not you have an illness, a good support system is crucial to getting through the endless roller coaster that is life. Without the love and support of my friends and family, I don't know who or where I'd be. 

Creating a good support system can take constant editing at first. What I mean by that is getting rid of the relationships that not only put stress on your body but on your mind too. Emotional baggage does take a toll on your physical health as well. As someone with a chronic illness, I have limited time and energy, so, I value my quality of life more than if I wasn't sick. When I hangout with someone, I'm putting my trust in them to make sure my time and energy spent is worthwhile. 

The people in your life should be a source of reducing stress, not causing it. This quote could not be more true. I had a friend, once, that constantly brought her drama into my life and as a result, interrupted my peace of mind. She would pressure me into doing things that could potentially put my health at risk like going to a party after middle school graduation when just attending graduation had already worn me out for the day. It didn't matter how long I had known her, she never tried to understand my health situation. Once I severed my friendship with her my health and wellness greatly improved. The people that take up space in your life should understand that your health is important and respect that. Not take advantage of it. 

Sometimes your circle decreases in size, but increases in value. Truth is, I don't have that many super close friends but the ones that I do have would do anything for me and visa versa. They're the kind of people that will still want to hangout regardless of whether that's in front of the television or at the mall. I know that they  would drop everything just to be by my side (I know because they've done it before). Being with them makes me feel loved and valued. I realize that they might not understand the full extent of my illness but they never pressure me into doing something that my body can't handle and they know exactly how and when to assist me without me having to ask. Those are true and meaningful friendships. 

People come and go. Everyone that's been in your life was there for a reason. To teach you, to love you, to experience life with you. I think the hardest yet most rewarding lessons that we learn when going through hardship is who our true friends are. People reveal all their colors when they witness someone close to them struggling. Some of those colors are vibrant and beautiful and some are dark and haunting. But that's their problem not ours. 

Letting go of certain people in your life doesn't mean you don't love them or hope for the best for them. It just means that you're protecting your inner peace. It isn't the easiest thing to have to do at first but eventually you will feel that weight being lifted off of your shoulders. 

I hope this article sheds some light on the people in your life who do and don't belong in your circle.